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Thursday, January 27, 2011

You MUST ASK!

You've got to ask. Asking is, in my opinion, the world's most powerful and neglected secret to success and happiness.- Percy Ross

I saw it again yesterday. One of my clients stopped responding to the fitness check-ins that we set up and stopped updating their goal tracker. I smelled avoidance and distraction.

When I got this person on the phone they great “excuses” ready as to why they weren’t keeping their word, doing what they committed to. Side Note: This fitness transformation journey… it is ALL about KEEPING YOUR WORD TO YOURSELF. More on this later.

When I let them know that I wasn’t buying their excuses they caved in and owned their confusion pertaining to their nutrition plan. This is not the first time. Last month a woman I was working with scrapped her nutrition plan because she had trouble measuring and doing the simple math necessary to get the measurements correct. Upon her asking, once it became clear there was a breakdown… we got her back on track and began seeing results.  

When have confusion it is CRITICAL that we get clarity ASAP so that we don’t stall out or go down the wrong road. By not asking questions we can’t find out what we need to do to take ourselves to the next level. This little tendency is, from my perspective, our ego trying to convince us to stay stuck right where we are. “Don’t ask questions, you’ll look stupid!” the ego says. It is also saying silently, “If we ask too many questions we won’t be able to hide out in mediocrity any longer. Oh, my! We’ll have to be totally responsible for our lives.”

The ego doesn’t like this. The ego prefers to be a victim to circumstance. It prefers to see everything outside ourselves as responsible for our quality of life and existence. Asking questions leads us to the understanding that we are the determining factor of the conditions of our lives.

I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

This quote also goes for how we treat ourselves…the way we talk to and honor or dishonor ourselves.  

If there is something to gain and nothing to lose by asking, by all means ask! - W. Clement Stone

Joshua L Hodnett
Fitness Professional
Certified / Insured
817.538.1007 cell
495 W Harwood
Hurst TX 76054
Sound Mind.Sound Body.Sound Life.

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